February 17, 2019We asked fans of our agony aunt Dear Thelma to pose some serious questions about who she is, what she does and how she manages. Here are her comebacks!
February 17, 2019Back in 1986, The Sunday Star began an advice column in its lifestyle pullout and called it “Tell It To Thelma” – offering tips for all your relationship problems! Thelma promised to pull no punches as she began each of her missives with “Thelma Says ...”.
January 6, 2019This week, we have two letters with similar dilemmas. One half of a couple discovers upsetting things about their partner that is calling the relationship into question.
December 23, 2018They've been together for three years, but now she isn't as attractive to him anymore. He wants to call it quits, but is worried he's making the wrong decision.
December 16, 2018They've been going out for a few months and marriage is in the cards. He says he will tell his mother about her, but she’s still a secret even after assuring her of his feelings.
December 2, 2018She had a good relationship with an older, obese man, but her parents made her end it as they were worried for her future. She resents them for it.
November 25, 2018For the past six years, this college student has felt that nobody likes her or wants her company. Thelma wonders if it could be a confidence issue.
November 11, 2018He has called me beautiful, he has kissed me and touched me intimately. We have even had phone sex. Yet now he wants nothing to do with me.
October 21, 2018This loner tried to make friends, yet ended up being left out. She thinks she is being a good friend to others but still feels alone even with people around.
October 14, 2018At 60, her husband of 25 years has become sociable and just wants to enjoy life, party, travel and spend money. He's also taken a lover.
October 7, 2018She has a steady job but her husband doesn’t like it that she gives her parents money. He says she owes him for their shared household expenses.
September 30, 2018She has loved her cousin for years but he has agreed to an arranged marriage with a woman of his parents' choice and will go through it in a month.
September 23, 2018The relationship between a couple changed after they got married. She thinks he is too influenced by his mother, and may even be cheating.
September 17, 2018Her boyfriend is very supportive but he does not earn a good living and she takes care of their expenses. She wants to know if he could be taking advantage.