Nine-year-old Kuhmaria VanBuren ran into the prison gymnasium and jumped into her mother’s arms with so much force they almost fell down.
For the next two hours, Kuhmaria let her mum braid her hair and cuddled in her arms, savouring the rare contact. Sapphire VanBuren, 26, has been incarcerated at the Maryland Correctional Institution for Women in Jessup, Maryland, the United States for over two years.
The VanBurens are among 30 mother-daughter pairs who come together at the prison twice a month through the Girl Scouts Beyond Bars programme. The initiative, now in its 25th year, aims to foster bonds between young girls and their mums, even as metal detectors, locked gates and guards separate them most days of the year.
“It’s wonderful just being able to be in her life, despite the circumstances,” VanBuren said.
Administrators say the programme helps boost the girls’ self-esteem and provides them with a community of other children who understand what it’s like to grow up with a mum in prison. For the mothers, the visits are a connection to life outside the prison walls, and an incentive to get through their sentence without trouble.
The Girl Scouts of Central Maryland was the first to create such a troop, but over the next two decades, the model was duplicated in over two dozen Girl Scout councils across the country. Since 1992, the Central Maryland council has served more than 400 girls and their mothers. Roughly a third of the girls this year, including Kuhmaria, live in Baltimore.
When a woman is sent to prison, it breaks up the family, said Margaret Chippendale, the prison’s warden. “This is just the opportunity to help stop that breakage, to bring mum and daughter back together,” she said. “Incarceration is tough – it’s tough for mum, but it’s really tough on children and the families that’ve been left behind.”
Women represent the fastest growing population of prisoners in the United States – increasing 14-fold between 1970 and 2014, according to one recent study. Two-thirds of incarcerated women leave behind at least one child, other figures show.
VanBuren has awhile to go on her 12-year sentence for assault, and is grateful she gets to watch her daughter grow up.
“It’s the reason why I keep pushing in here, why I stay out of trouble,” VanBuren said. “It’s all to get home to her.”
The hair-braiding, hugging and hand holding are among the most visible ways these two hour sessions differ from a traditional prison visit.
During regular visitation, the inmate and the visitor sit on opposite sides of a table. There is no touching, save for a brief embrace that’s permitted at the very end of the hour. A policy put into effect in 2015 across all Maryland correctional facilities bans touching at the beginning of a visit, kissing on the mouth and taking pictures, an effort to crack down on contraband exchanged during visitation.
In a Girl Scouts session, some of the young girls cling to their mothers for nearly the entire two hours.
Many of the mothers are dressed in the standard uniform – grey pants and a grey long-sleeve shirt. The girls, meanwhile, usually come in the khaki pants, white shirts and sashes that signify their Girl Scout rank.
Cailyn Moreno, 14, and her sister, eight-year-old Ciara Wiseman, treasure the time they can spend telling their mother about their day-to-day life. Ciara brags to their mother, Amanda Cooper, about how she can do eight cartwheels in a row. Cailyn asks for advice about boys at school and tells her mum how she’s considering a career in pediatric surgery – she’s been watching a lot of Grey’s Anatomy lately.
But the sessions aren’t only a time to catch up with mum, programme officials say. The girls also take part in more traditional scouting activities.
Recently, the girls set up a cookie selling station next to a metal detector in the visitors lobby. The troop has raised thousands of dollars selling Tagalongs, Thin Mints and Lemonades to others in the visitors centre.
After finishing up sales, the girls know the routine: Go through the metal detector, lift your arms, get patted down by an officer, allow the K-9s to sniff around your feet.
Inside the prison gymnasium, after some free time for catching up, everyone stands together for a friendship circle. They sing Happy Birthday to those with a November birthday, and they share special news. One girl talks about being named to the Honour Roll. Kuhmaria tells the group she got a new kitten named Prince Charming.
Together, mothers and daughters recite the Girl Scout Promise and the Girl Scout Law – “I will do my best to be honest and fair, friendly and helpful, considerate and caring, courageous and strong, and responsible for what I say and do.”
Then the girls break up into age-appropriate clusters, joined by their mums, for activities. One group talks about working toward their Silver Award. Another discusses philanthropy and plays get-to-know-you games.
During one game, the girls are instructed to find out “fun facts” about their mums and each other.
Kuhmaria turns to her mother to ask what her fun fact is. “I love you more today than I did yesterday,” VanBuren says.
One of the most treasured parts of the programme, the girls say, is the annual sleepover. For an entire night, the mums and daughters can hang out, painting nails and watching movies, and get a brief taste of normalcy.
Cailyn remembers staying up all night for the sleepover – prompting her mother to yell at her to go to bed.
“It was kind of nice to be yelled at again,” Cailyn said.
For some girls, it is the first full night they’ve ever spent with their mothers. An estimated one in 25 women is pregnant at the time she is sent to prison.
The programme took a financial hit in 2012, when the U.S. Department of Justice stopped awarding money to the national Beyond Bars initiative. The Central Maryland council received federal dollars each year from 2002 to 2012, but now relies on other grants and donations. Some programmes elsewhere ended. About 15 councils still have programmes, Girl Scouts officials say.
At the end of the visit, everyone gathered in a circle again to talk about what they are thankful for. The mothers and daughters would again be celebrating Thanksgiving apart.
“I’m thankful for my mummy,” one girl said. “For my support system,” said another. “For Girl Scouts,” a few girls chimed in.
When it came time for goodbyes, mums peppered their daughters’ faces with kisses, and reached out for second and third hugs.
Through windows that overlook the prison’s gymnasium, some of the women waved both hands while their daughters slowly disappeared from view. The daughters, turning back, blew kisses until they were escorted past the windows, and through a locked door. – The Baltimore Sun/Tribune News Service