Cats are very loving but they don’t share our culture – which means you have to think Kitty as you hug each other.

For small pets, danger comes from above. Therefore, when you talk to your cat, have your eyes on the same level. It’s just like talking to kids, really. You hunker down, or sit on the floor, or invite your pet on to the sofa. If you can, lie down and have your cat stand on your chest.

Start by stroking your cat’s back and face. Avoid known tickly spots, and go for super popular areas like the cheekbones and just under the ears.

As your pet purrs and is happy, you’re going to get claws coming out. A towel between the two of you should sort it out. And if a claw slips, know it’s not on purpose.

Your pet will probably headbutt you. This is a sign of affection, so if you get bashed, consider it a super compliment. Also, do a bit of Cat Speak by gently headbutting back.

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Cats need to feel the love. You can start by stroking and patting it, and listen to it purr. Photo: 123rf.com

At this point you should get slow, blinking cat kisses and headbutts of love. Once your pet does it once, she will probably start inviting you to do it more often. For my Target, kissing time is every morning and every evening, minimum. He also demands kisses during the day. So be prepared to put time aside for love.

Do note that some kitties get so excited and happy that they nip and bite. Get to know your pet. If she’s a rough-love cat, learn the signs and gently disengage before she goes overboard. If it’s fairly gentle, live with it and know that your pet is treating you just like a cat – and being invited to the tribe, that’s an honour!