Change can only happen when you make it happen, says this writer.

Lost is how I felt when I hit the age of 25. The quarter life crisis. To some, it might be exaggerating to even call it a “crisis”.

“Don’t worry, 25 years old is still very young!” That’s what many older (and wiser) people would say. What they don’t realise is that the mindset of most 25-year-olds is somewhat different than what it was a decade ago. For me, these were the five things that I felt insecure about, which I decided to act on. You probably should, too.

Getting a new job

Being a commerce graduate, I have always been comfortable with numbers and reporting. However, I could not ignore the talkative side of my nature. After working in accounts for two years, I have decided to go into public relations. It was the most terrifying but most rewarding decision I have made so far.

Frankly, shaking off the reporting style of writing was challenging, but once I started writing and talking, I could not stop. I realised that once you have found your passion, every moment at work will be enjoyable. So, take a few moments to think of your passion – take a leap of faith and work hard! Nothing is impossible.

Investing my money

Like most youngsters, I try to spend wisely, but at the end of the year, I would stare at my miserable bank account, trying to recall how I have spent my hard-earned money. Saving was already a challenge for me. So, investing did not occur to me until people around me started to do something about their money.

You can call it “peer pressure”, but I reckon this was a good wake up call. Learn how you can multiply your money wisely and talk to more people. Then, pick and choose the most suitable investment for yourself.

Being in a relationship

Well, I have to admit that this is not something that you can wake up one day and decide to do. You can’t be in a relationship just as you please. I was really blessed to have met someone whom I can share my ups and downs with. A gentle reminder is to love yourself before loving someone else. Everyone loves somebody who is genuine, confident and positive, right? Just be yourself and have a little faith. Things will fall into place eventually.

Spending more time with my family

Stop and look at your parents for a minute. Do you realise that they have a lot more wrinkles on their faces and strands of grey hair? It was heart-breaking to see my parents forgetting where they have placed their belongings and having their body ache all the time. Time has no mercy. So, spend it wisely. After all, they are the ones who brought us up – from the start when they were wiping our bums, nurturing us into who we are today.

Growing up

I’m as sceptical as the next person when it comes to those two words. After all, my definition of growing up might be very different from yours. I believe that growing up is when we start to acknowledge our strengths and weaknesses, then do something about it. Also, to be able to balance what we want with we what need at different stages of life. Opportunity costs is what we all have to acknowledge at the end of the day.

What I’ve come to realise is that for every action, there is an equal but opposite reaction. Take charge of your decisions and be the change you want to see. Cliché, but you are not alone. Everyone turns 25 once in their lifetime. Enjoy the roller-coaster ride before hitting the big three-O.