How do you determine when your child should get an allowance and what the amount should be?
Having allowances is an opportunity for kids to learn about financial responsibility and money management. It is a great way to teach them to be independent, patient, charitable and appreciative.
Allocating allowances for kids is a significant step in their process of growing up.
As a guide, give your child RM1 per age every week i.e. a 10-year-old will get RM10 per week, though this depends on your financial situation and the standard rate in the area.
The idea is to increase the amount appropriately as they grow up, according to their needs. This amount should cover more than the basics (e.g. lunch and bus fare) so they can save the extras. Hence, it is important to discuss how you expect your kid to spend the money.
You can start giving them allowances as early as preschool or primary school, to spend at the canteen or the stationery shop.
Starting from young is important, as letting them handle cash will teach them to distinguish the value of different bills and coins. Dealing with transactions also helps them enhance their mathematical ability.
There are different approaches to allotting allowances. It can be given on a regular basis, depending on your preference.
You can start giving allowances daily when they are young, and switch to weekly or monthly as they grow older and learn to handle larger amounts of money. Getting a regular allowance makes it easier for them to plan their budget.
Allowances can also be given based on needs. Your kids will have to ask you whenever they run out of money. Discuss their request and teach them about the differences between wants and needs, as well as appropriate budget strategies.
If they want to buy something that costs more than their allocated budget, they have to save up and put aside immediate wants, thereby teaching them self-control.
Learn to earn
When talking about chores and allowances, one opinion states that kids have to earn their allowances by doing chores, and another says kids are expected to be responsible for chores without being paid.
Linking chores to allowances can teach them that they need to work to get what they want, but they may ditch the chores if there are no consequences other than not getting the allowance.
On the other hand, separating chores and allowances can teach them to be responsible as a family member, but they may take the allowance for granted if they do not have to work for it.
As a solution, separate regular allowances and chores (e.g. throwing out trash, washing the dishes, etc.), and offer to pay them extra for doing additional chores that are bigger and tougher (e.g. washing the car), as long as the chores are suitable for their age.
After all, doing household chores teaches them life skills and to be responsible without expecting rewards.
Here are some handy tips:
- Help them budget. Teach them to allocate how much they are going to spend for immediate purchases and how much to set aside for savings.
- Let them spend, but set a limit. Do not micro-manage how they spend their allowances, but step in if it breaks your rule, e.g. spending all their money on junk food.
- Be firm with the allowance schedule. If they ask for an advance because their funds ran out, do not simply bail them out.
- Don’t punish them by cutting allowances. If they misbehave, take away their privileges instead, such as limiting television time or Internet access.
- Practise what you preach. Your financial habit will influence your kids. If you usually overspend on unnecessary things, they will think that it is an acceptable behaviour.
Different parents may have different preferences of giving allowances.
But one thing is certain – financial education should start from young, and letting kids manage their own money is a good way to start.
Alexius Cheang is a behavioural psychologist. This article is courtesy of the Malaysian Paediatric Association’s Positive Parenting programme in collaboration with expert partners. For further information, please email firstname.lastname@example.org. The information provided is for educational and communication purposes only and it should not be construed as personal medical advice. Information published in this article is not intended to replace, supplant or augment a consultation with a health professional regarding the reader’s own medical care. The Star does not give any warranty on accuracy, completeness, functionality, usefulness or other assurances as to the content appearing in this column. The Star disclaims all responsibility for any losses, damage to property or personal injury suffered directly or indirectly from reliance on such information.