A mother’s role is vital. Every mother plays an important role in raising their children, especially when they are young and tender. The role mothers play nowadays has an even wider scope than in the olden days.
Gone are the days when children were safe and innocent. Children are more computer-savvy now and spend a lot of time on the iPad or iPhone. Many children will not look you in the eye when you talk to them; their eyes are on their gadgets.
When my mum passed away at 70, we – her children – realised that we had not spent as much time with her as we would’ve liked. We were busy with our own families, and working hard to make ends meet.
But she was waiting for us to come home. Most of my siblings were outstation, so they hardly came back to visit her. Although she did not demand it, her heart longed for her children.
My elder sister and I were the lucky ones because we lived near my mother. She used to cook my favourite dish, and sometimes I could skip cooking and go to her place for dinner. Our family enjoyed the fellowship.
My two children were overseas when she suddenly passed away. They were close to their grandmother because both of them had been brought up by her. It was a loss that took a long time to heal.
While talking to my friend one day, we realised that, as parents, we do not wait for our children to come to us. We understand that, due to their heavy workload, they may not be able to come home often, so we offer to go over to their place.
At age 60-plus, we are left all alone as our children have long flown the nest.
Usually, my friends would cook their children’s favourite food, pack everything, and drive to Kuala Lumpur for the weekend. The children get to eat home-cooked meals, like nasi lemak and chicken rice. It is a win-win situation. Everyone is happy.
When my children were in primary school, I remember the days when I just got home after dropping them off, and the phone would ring. I had to look for a book that my child had forgotten to take with her, and drive to the school again to hand the book to her, so that she would not get scolded or caned by the teacher.
We sent them for tuition classes, from Year One to Form Five. We made sure we were early in sending them there, and after that, we waited patiently for tuition classes to be over.
Being a parent comes with heavy responsibilities. We ensure that our children have the best education; we scrimp and save to provide for them all the way to university level.
If you ask what mothers wish for, it is the precious time they can spend with their children. Therefore we really cherish our yearly holidays with our children. And later on, when we look at the photographs we took, it brings back sweet memories.
More than anything, a mother needs encouragement, comfort, a pat on the shoulder, a smile, love – and more than just a few words from their children. Mothers are precious; they have gone through a lot to make your life what it is today. Just appreciate her for her sacrifices and unconditional love.